West Seattle author's memoir of faith vs. identity is deeply personal
West Seattle's Nicole Hardy was 35 years old, and a virgin. Not because she was unattractive, or had health problems or had no sexual feelings.
She was a practicing Mormon and Mormon's remain celibate until marriage.
In the Mormon faith, doctrine decrees that the family unit means women must have children. Hardy chose not to have them. But the conflict she felt about her faith and her celibacy kept her in a kind of frozen adolescence, aging out of the church's "singles ward" and led her to write an essay, published in the New York Times.